As a coach I learned that if I wanted to ensure long-term, measurable, and meaningful change for my clients, I had to provide experiential processes and opportunities for them. These processes allow for the body to kinesthetically process the cognitive understandings that are arising and translate them into neurological shifts. That is when behaviors change and where new possibilities emerge. 

But they aren’t. 

What is right relationship? Right relationship means that the relationship we are in (with a living being, a place, a project, or an event) is organized around us in a way that contributes to wholeness and is guided by integrity and our values. When we are in right relationship to another, the energy around that relationship feels clean.

Are you constantly challenged by an inability to be as assertive and direct as you would like to be? Do people say you are strong and opinionated but deep down inside you know there is so much more authenticity that the world is not seeing?

The toppling of a democracy is systematically engineered in the background for decades, subtly without much ado. Then, without warning, suddenly people are fleeing to their homes to switch on the televisions. Like the proverbial frog who boils to death in slowly warming water, no one sees it coming.

The Supreme Court’s maneuver to overturn Roe v. Wade is not about saving the lives of babies, or preserving family values, or upholding Christian moral beliefs. If it were, then its architects would be staunch advocates of a plethora of pro-infant, pro-mother, pro-family and pro-child initiatives. They would be ensuring that all these unborn lives would not only be saved but have a safe environment in which to thrive. 

But they aren’t. 

May we together create a world that is unbullied—a world where we no longer normalize internal unkindness and belligerence. Where are hearts are free to experience joy, where our minds are at last emancipated from tyranny. 

What would happen to America if it did one simple yet seismic shift, and put women first as a policy priority ensuring true equality?

It is miraculous that there is a possibility to end that cycle and create the life you always deserved. How do you want to spend your one wild and free life?

I believe all humans are outrageously creative. And every one of us needs to learn to be ok in the discomfort of resistance so that our genius can emerge. We need to be willing to engage in sacred warfare each and every day.

Colonization operates by creating a fundamental split. The split creates a belief in separation and disconnection.

I’m not sure who fired the first shot – nature or humanity. But somewhere long ago a great rift happened between humans and nature.

Take some time this week and do an inventory. Let your body tell you what feels ok, what feels not ok. You’ll know the ‘not ok’s’ by how it feels, like size-four jeans on a voluptuous and sexy size-twelve body. You’ve grown, in a good way, and your body knows it

You see, the patriarchy is the soup we swim in. Like fish in water, we don’t see its influence, or how it shapes our thought, or more accurately, our non-thought.

When we numb out or rush past grief, we also limit our capacity for joy and presence. You can’t selectively numb out one emotion, without compromising your ability to feel another. 

If the pandemic has done anything to me, it has stripped me of what I thought was real and important. It has removed any last drop of energy that I might use to effort myself into something other than my true authentic self. It has robbed me of any emotional reserves to endure ‘normal life’ any longer. If anything, the pandemic has laid me bare.

When people ask me, ‘What’s the point?’, I say to them, ‘this is the point’. To find our way back home within the greater order of things. This is why I remain somewhat hopeful in these dark times, because when I hang out in the good company of nature—feel its welcome—I feel my connection to an infinite capacity of heart. It is then I know a new possibility for us.

How hopeful. How empowering. The key to a peaceful and sustainable world may be closer, simpler, more in our own hands and therefore more attainable than we think.

The world needs you and your empathic gifts. But it needs you to be clear, healthy, balanced, sane and happy. Treat yourself like the unicorn that you are and learn how to take care of yourself in the unique ways your body, mind, and heart need.

Here’s the thing—we cannot solve the distortion within the distortion itself. We cannot heal the polarization in our communities by asserting ‘facts’ within the untruth of separation.

Then we must turn our attention towards creating conditions for everyone to thrive. We must set up policies, structures, and institutions that ensure the love, safety, and belonging of all humans.